I (29F) have been married to my husband, Luke (31M), for four years. His family is very close, which sounds nice in theory, but his mom has always had… boundary issues, to put it mildly.
From the start, she’s made it clear she doesn’t like sharing “her son.” I’ve had to smile through a lot of passive-aggressive comments, like: “I guess this is what happens when boys grow up and leave their mothers behind” and “Don’t forget who loved him first.” I’ve tried to stay respectful and keep the peace, even when it grated.
Last weekend was Luke’s birthday, and his family planned a dinner at a pretty upscale restaurant. I dressed up, brought him a thoughtful gift, and showed up ready to celebrate. I really wanted it to be a nice evening.
When we arrived, his mom had already taken the seat next to him. No big deal — I sat on his other side. But before we even placed our orders, she stood up, pointed at me, and shouted: “She is so clingy! Let’s give Luke a break from being glued to his wife for once!” Then she looked right at me, gestured to the next chair over, and added: “Scoot down, sweetheart. Let Mom sit with her birthday boy.”
Everyone laughed. Luke included.
I felt blindsided and, honestly, humiliated. Still, I didn’t want to cause a scene, so I slid over quietly while she practically draped herself over him like he was her prom date.
After a few minutes of sitting there, stewing in embarrassment while everyone carried on like this was normal, I realized I didn’t want to spend the night like that. So I stood up, grabbed my purse, and said: “Actually, I think I’ll head out. Happy birthday, Luke.” Then I left.
Later, Luke texted me, furious. He said I had made a scene, embarrassed him in front of his family, and “overreacted to a harmless joke.” His mom followed up with a message that read: “Sorry if you’re the sensitive type — we just like to have fun.”
Now Luke is giving me the silent treatment unless I apologize. I honestly don’t feel like I was in the wrong, but since it was his birthday, I’m second-guessing myself. Am I crazy for thinking they crossed a line? Do I really owe an apology?
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